Guests having a great time at one of Oxfordshire Wedding Entertainments Weddings

Guests having a great time!

So, how do you choose the music for this?

There is so much music available now that it’s hard to know where to start. One great way is to ask your guests to select a song each via your invites. Just ask them to pick a song that makes them get up and dance. Don’t just ask for a song, as you’ll inevitably get lots of slower songs and that’s probably not what you want.

This has another great effect in that when the request is played that person will assume it’s especially for them, the fact several people will probably have selected it doesn’t matter.

There seems to be a weird British trait in that we won’t dance to songs we don’t know. Definitely something to bear in mind when considering those album tracks you really like, that have never been released as singles. Will anyone else have heard of it?

A great piece of advice when choosing songs is to think to yourself… ‘If this were to play at a friends wedding, would I get up and dance?” If the answers no, then why would your guests dance to it? It’s OK to have the odd song like this, but not too many if getting everyone to dance is your goal.

I use an online system called DJ Event Planner (DJEP) which allows you to access my music database and choose music for your day. I’ve made a YouTube video that gives you a quick run through of how it works:

If you take a look on my Facebook Page, just under the cover photo, is an icon “Top Songs most requested”. If you click on that it opens up to show the most requested songs from 2013 via DJEP, the software I use to allow you to pick your music.

It’s even split in categories via decade.

So what happens when the buffet is ready? Do you want the DJ to announce it? Should the music volume be reduced and more background type music be played? Or should everything just keep going? There are no right or wrong answers to this, just make sure your DJ knows what you’d like to happen.

Other “things” going on…

If you plan to have other things going on during the evening, don’t forget to let the DJ know. That wonderful moment you’ve imagined, of all your guests releasing sky lanterns in memory of departed love ones or guests that couldn’t make it, isn’t going to be the same if they are all still inside and don’t know that you need them outside and what for…

There are lots of things you can do during your evening reception, it doesn’t have to be all music. I quite often write about different ideas on this blog, so have a look through the archives and click the link on the right to follow my Blog.

End of the night

Have you thought about how you’d like to end your special day? A few years back the bride and groom would often depart before the end of the night, that doesn’t tend to happen nowadays. We also used to end the evening with a few slow songs, but what then happens is that people recognise it as the end of the night and just head home leaving a few couples dancing.

Bride and Groom with their guests singing along to music by Oxfordshire Wedding Entertainment

End of the night…

I like to go out with a sing along, with two or three tracks that everyone knows, the guests encircling the bride and groom and everyone singing. Songs such as Take That – Never Forget, Elbow – One Day Like This, Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes – Time of My Life… or, how about playing your first dance song as the last dance to bring the evening full circle?

You should have an evening reception that reflects your day, your style and your wishes. That doesn’t mean a totally dictated playlist, but it does mean a bit of effort in planning how things will go.

Or, you could just book a DJ, not meet him or discuss any of your plans with him and have a generic “cookie cutter” disco… I know which my brides choose…. so to arrange an appointment to discuss your plans with me, please get in touch using one of the methods below. I look forward to hearing from you.

Best wishes


Oxfordshire Wedding Entertainment

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I run Oxfordshire Wedding Entertainment, based in Abingdon, Oxfordshire. I’m a DJ who has the belief that weddings can be so much more… I can provide the musical accompaniment to your whole day, from ceremony to drinks reception to wedding breakfast and finally, the evening reception. I can be your Master of Ceremonies, helping to guide and inform your guests.

I’m so much more than just a DJ…

I’d like to talk to you about your wedding day, to offer up ideas, to help and advise you.

If you’d like to arrange an appointment, then please contact me.